No matter how good we think we are, there is always room for improvement. You may be a great man already, but nobody’s perfect, and we could all stand to be a tad or a lot better. Some of us are generally wonderful but have certain flaws that drive our loved ones crazy. For their sake, and for the sake of simply feeling good in your own skin, it never hurts to learn how you can improve and be the best possible version of yourself.
Always take responsibility
One of the crucial elements that distinguish you as a man as opposed to a boy is your ability to take responsibility for your actions. Whether in the professional, family or romance department, it’s highly important to take your share of the blame when things go wrong and admit your guilt. Not only will this make you feel better, but you’ll be viewed as more mature in the eyes of those surrounding you. Furthermore, if you nurture a tendency to blame external circumstances and other people for your failures and act like the entire world is against you, people will begin to avoid you. We all deal with different problems and don’t need other people’s negativity weighing us down. The best part about taking your share of the blame is that this act allows you to grow and prevents negativity and depression from creeping into your life.
Acceptance is the key
This may sound corny, but trust us, it is far from it. Accepting others just as they are is almost of indescribable importance. As a society, we have grown to be highly judgmental of other people. Perhaps it has always been this way but the Digital Age made it all the more visible. When we meet someone new, the mind immediately focuses on the flaws, and that’s not the road to either happiness or great friendships and romantic relationships. Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a neuropsychologist is here to guide you on your journey towards acceptance, as well as to show you how gratifying it is and how in accepting others, you can become a better, attractive and alluring person, not to mention that by embracing others as they are, they will do the same for you, and that’s just plain wonderful.
Let’s assume you were in a relationship, or even married, and for one reason or another, the relationship crumbles. When this happens, it’s inevitable that your heart will be filled with bitterness and resentment, and the way you choose to behave in these situations speaks volumes of what kind of person you are. Despite common misconceptions, we have more control over our words and actions than we might think, and it’s possible to avoid low-blows. If you feel like you can’t suppress your negative urges and resentment in a situation such as a separation or divorce, it’s always a good idea to seek professional help such as separation counseling to help you deal with the entire unpleasant process. Not only will a professional help you through this tough time but their guidance will also prevent you from saying or doing things that you’ll regret and never be able to undo or take back.
Be a man of your word
One of the most unattractive qualities a man can possess is flakiness. First of all, it repels women – no woman wants a guy she can’t rely on even for the smallest things. If you said that you would pick up the groceries, pick up the kids, or just call after a date – follow through and do all those things. Unreliability is also a major liability for your professional life – if you’ve committed to finishing a report by Wednesday at 4 p.m., make you do. Told mom you would call – do it. Promise friends a camping trip – don’t cancel at the last minute. Never make promises you’re not certain you can keep. By following through on your word you’ll become more lovable, trustworthy and those are qualities you surely want for yourself.
Free your mind
Perhaps the single most detested kind of man is the know-it-all. Someone tells you a fact or shares an opinion and you jump at the opportunity to correct and counter them. If this rings a bell, you need to nip this behavior in the bud. Accept the fact that you might not have all the answers (spoiler alert: no one does), and instead use other people’s knowledge to expand your own. Even if you’re absolutely sure that what the other person is telling you is incorrect, be kind and let it slide. You don’t have to be right all the time.